Sunday Sermon – How To Build A Life of Happiness
Most of us have been making lists since the new year arrived; lists of goals or resolutions.
Whether these are actual written lists or virtual lists that live in our minds, the focus is the same – how to build a life of happiness. Maybe you want to lose weight or save money or take a grand vacation or buy a new car or a house. Why? Because you believe this will make you happier.
Here’s my suggestion – run those goals through this test: What will achieving this goal do for my relationships with other people, because, as Dr. Waldinger explains in this video, that truly is the only thing that matters for happiness.
If you’re not happy, or not as happy as you’d like to be, take a look at the status of your relationships. Are they good ones? Free of conflict? As Dr. Waldinger says, it’s not your blood cholesterol level that determines longevity and a happy life. It is how connected to others you feel.
If you are lonely and isolated, don’t despair. This too can change. The key to building or rebuilding relationships is having a servant’s heart. In each exchange ask, “What can I give to this person?” By giving, by having a servant’s heart, you build others up, and I believe (and it seems to be bourn out by research) that what you put into the world, what you give, is what you get in return.
There’s another part to this. If you’re struggling with depression the best way to alleviate it is to care for others. When you’re doing something kind for another person it is almost impossible for you to feel sorrow.